Weddings
Wedding Policy
In line with Vine's Welcome Statement, we believe that You Belong Here. The wideness of God's love and grace is evident in the sacred worth and value of all people. At Vine, we recognize the union of marriage as a beautiful covenant between two adults, and their Creator. Our community values the opportunity to surround each couple as they commit to each other in love and faith, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, race, national origin, ethnic or cultural background, physical condition, family configuration, economic situation, and appearance.
In accordance with the Book of Discipline, clergy have the right to decide whom they will marry and the preparation for marriage they require. Vine's Lead Pastor also must approve any visiting clergy invited to perform a ceremony on Vine’s property.
To discuss fees for use of property, please contact our office.
Pre-Marital Counseling
We invite couples to 3-5 sessions of pre-marital counseling in the months ahead of their wedding. This is not a test for marriage or something that needs to be jumped through in order to qualify. Rather this is a chance for the pastor to get to know you, to learn about your story, and to help you and your spouse have conversations that we believe will help you grow in faith and lasting love.
We use materials from a program called "Prepare Enrich." It includes an on-line assessment that couples must take. The cost for that is $35 that the couple pays online when they use the tool.
Frequenty Asked Questions
A fee is not “required,” and we never want finances to stand in the way. However - generally a gift to the pastor around $250 is standard. If there is travel involved, please take that into consideration. It can be given at the rehearsal or the day of the ceremony.
If there is a bridal party, anyone doing special readings, or special traditions being enacted – a rehearsal is suggested. Rehearsals are generally brief – just hitting the points of the ceremony and giving everyone a bit of muscle memory that will serve them well the next day.
At least 30-minutes in advance of the ceremony. The pastor will check in with the bride/groom or the wedding coordinator.
Please give the pastor the wedding license at the rehearsal. They are responsible for mailing it within 5 days. Some reminders:
- You can get your license up to 60-days prior to your ceremony anywhere in VA. (You don’t need to get a license from the same county where your wedding will be.)
- We recommend that you mail the form requesting 2 copies of your license be mailed to you following the ceremony. It’s nice to have an extra in the coming years.
It’s up to you! If you have a special role for the pastor (praying over meal, etc.) let us know. Otherwise – we appreciate that each seat costs you money and we are happy to just serve at the ceremony and then head home while you and your family celebrate!
The pastor will give you their cell phone when you meet for pre-marital counseling. You may share it with a wedding coordinator for any day of communication needs.